It has been a challenging week for me, being a dad. I have had a pretty short fuse with the boys. I think it is just one of those weeks.
And once again I have a healthy respect for what my wife does day in and day out.
I think ,sometimes, people believe because we have adopted, that our boys must be different. Kind of like— you guys did a cool deal for them by adopting them so they must be easy to parent. Which is definitely not the case:-). They are still two boys who love to make messes, say no, touch things they aren’t supposed to and well you get the picture.
I think one thing that people also believe is that their love for an adopted child will somehow be different. Kind of like —they are not my biological child so I can’t possibly love them the same as I would a biological child.
As a guy I used to believe that myth: Ant that is this, because an adopted child is not biological then I certainly could not love them the same.
I can say that after I surrendered this type of thought process to the Lord is when I began to see that in fact I would/could love an adopted son/daughter the same. After all God loved us—and we have been adopted by Him.
I have two boys, Jaxon (Taiwan) & Levi (Vietnam) and I can’t imagine loving them more or less because they are adopted. I would die for them. I can’t imagine my life with out them. I have been shocked at the level of love I have for my boys. They are my sons—whom I love just as any other dad loves their kids.
In short I would just say that if you have the feeling, “gosh it just won’t be the same” I would say: surrender that thought process to God and see what He will do with your submission to Him.